When Online Profiles Become A Waste

There are so many social networks floating about on the Internet. I am currently a member of Twitter, Facebook, Brazen Careerist, YouTube, and BrightFuse. I might be a member of more networks, but those are all that I can remember at the moment. And there are so many more that I am completely clueless about. But it’s safe to say that they all have one thing in common — they all expect you to have a profile.

A profile has a purpose. It is meant to be a summary of you, a little snippet that gives people an idea of who you are. Your profile is supposed to make you interesting and attractive. In the social networking world, your profile is one of the most basic marketing tools you have.

However, I hate making online profiles. The only exception is Twitter, because I just throw in a few keywords and interests and wait for people to connect with me. But on those other networks, I struggle to build a proper profile. Why? Because whatever I say sounds silly to me.

One reason is because, as I’ve said previously, some people wrongly perceive certain aspects of their personalities. Because of this, certain words and identifiers have been bastardized and sound desperate when used. Think of a term such as perfectionist. There are so many perfectionists out there, yet there are so few. My best friend, a graphic designer, truly is a perfectionist. However, if he identifies himself as such, everyone would laugh at him. Who isn’t a perfectionist? Isn’t everyone? Yeah. And no.

I recently ranted about this to an old friend, and he said he’d define me as truly being “outside of the box”. Even if I wanted to, I could never use such a statement. Who doesn’t think he’s outside of the box? Who doesn’t think he’s brilliant and creative? Who doesn’t want others to think that about himself? And so that phrase means nothing.

When I see a profile that says something like I have a fun personality or I’m really easy to get along with, I wonder if such statements are true. Such statements are greatly overplayed and don’t truly add any value to your profile. They don’t tell me anything about you.

And there are those phrases that pretty much apply to everyone.

Phrases like I’m a really nice person until you piss me off. Sure, there are some people who are assholes 100% of the time. But such people are few, and even fewer of them would actually admit it.

Or phrases like I get pissed off at people who hurt my friends. Yeah, most of us do. And even if we won’t rush to defend their honor, we’re likely not going to admit otherwise.

To me, it’s just like the person who says: “If you ever need anything, give me a call. If you go to the bar and get drunk — I don’t care if it’s 3 o’clock in the morning – call me, I’ll come pick you up.” I’ve never uttered such a sentence because the truth is that I’m not that guy. If you call me in such a situation, I might have the intention of hopping out of bed and coming to your rescue. But the reality is that I’m more likely to go back to sleep and forget you ever called. And I’m probably more likely to be pissed that you disturbed me during my beauty rest, especially if I have something to do the next morning (like work).

I know such a statement is absurd, so I don’t even try to fake it. I don’t want to paint myself as something I am not.

But how are people supposed to get to know you? How will they ever know who you are?

I’d prefer that people observe my interactions on these networks.

Don’t worry about what I say about myself. Worry about my actions, because they speak louder than words. What kind of content do I share? Do I interact with others? That will tell you so much more than a paragraph or two in my profile section.

And do this with others. And also, do this offline.

People can tell you whatever they want. And sometimes they may tell you how they’d like to be perceived, rather than tell who they actually are. I don’t want to do that. I don’t want to insult your intelligence.

I am what I am, not what I say I am. And the sooner I allow you to see that, the sooner you can accept me for me.

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